Dear Confused,
I'm a little confused myself. You say you're not a fan of going out with a parent, but here you are, dating a mommy. Maybe you and she have an understanding that this is not a long-term gig, but I don't think you'd be writing me about it if you did. Is it that you don't like kids? Or you just don't wanna be a step-daddy? Well, whatever your deal is, my guess is she's not planning to ditch her kids anytime soon. I know you "dig this chick" but unless you dig rugrats too, daddy-o, you know where this is headed. When you date a mom you are eventually going to have to date the whole family.
So, you have two choices. You keep dating her as long as you can, until you the kid situation annoys or scares the crap out of you, and you ditch her (or your worsening attitude pushes her away). This means you risk breaking not only her heart, but the hearts of her perfectly adorable children as well. Hmm. Option two is to be honest and upfront with her, and part ways now before anyone gets too attached. The latter option would, in my opinion, be the more mature and honorable thing to do. But if she's really hot, there's a good chance you're gonna choose the first one.
Notice that one of the choices above is not "keep dating her and hope you are won over by the wonderfulness of her kids." Unless you have a true desire to change your mind, and to be open to all the responsibility and lifestyle changes associated with parenthood, it ain't gonna happen. Don't kid yourself.
Humbly yours,
IssuesGirl
